Breaking Up With Your Bullshit: How to Spot the Stories Running Your Life
We are deeply identified with our thoughts—so much so that it can be nearly impossible to see them as optional. Our beliefs feel like facts. In many ways, that makes sense: these narratives have been with us for so long, shaping the way we see ourselves, others, and the world around us. We cling tightly to them, often preferring to be right—even if being right keeps us stuck, small, or unhappy.
Living From Conditioning vs. Your Authentic Self
Most of us go through life believing we’re making our own choices. We chase our dreams, set goals, work hard, and assume that we are the ones steering the ship.
But what if we’re not?
What if most of our decisions aren’t actually choices, but reactions—to fear, to expectation, to the need for safety and belonging?
How to Get Back to Your Inner Authority
Let’s be real—most of us have spent a large chunk of our lives outsourcing our decisions to external forces. Parents, teachers, partners, astrology memes, that one friend who somehow has their life together (??), or just good old-fashioned panic-Googling at 2 AM.
But here’s the thing: your inner authority already knows the way. It’s been whispering to you (or, depending on your design, nudging, pulling, or downright screaming), but if you’ve been conditioned to ignore it, it might feel… elusive.
So, how do we clear the static, tune back in, and let our inner authority lead the way?
Things I Wish I Was Told About Being a Generator
I learned about Human Design in 2018, in a moment in time when my life was at a critical crossroads. I was going through a major separation, living in a new country away from my support system, moving month to month between various sublets and housesits, wondering when my time and luck would run out. I was struggling creatively, financially, personally — you name it, I was in it. Essentially, all of my biggest fears had come true. It was a huge rock bottom.